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Fri, Jan 15, 2010
Look, I’m writing for the men who are looking to get themselves a girlfriend. Yes, I’ll be talking about multiple options and ‘only sex’ in the later blog posts. Right now, I want to address the need of those men who want to settle down and are looking for a great girlfriend 
Now, the question is whether the seduction model that you get from the other dating coaches applicable in the case of finding yourself a girlfriend. To be honest, I don’t think so. For one, the overwhelming number of dating coaches or PUAs out there along with their various approaches to the game makes it really hard to adjudge who’s the ONE. It must be remembered that whatever process he is teaching, it sure works for him but will it work for you too? Not sure, first of all. And if it works, will it work in your quest of finding yourself a girlfriend? Not sure again.
But yeah, what we can do is go deep into what she wants or what she might from you and then figure the information from the others’ game according to your convenience. And here’s a seduction model that I have created and I supremely endorse the thing would be invaluable in getting you a girlfriend.
The ‘Get Yourself a Girlfriend’ model is like this:
Approach -> Familiarity -> Sexual Tension -> Qualification -> Deep Rapport -> Sexual Escalation
Approach her DIRECT. When you approach her direct, you show confidence and dominance, and almost instantly bring a sexual tension into the interaction.
But if you start flirting with her pronto, she will be freaked out. You don’t want to come on too strong, do you? You want a relationship with her, so take it slow. She knows why you are there but she wants it to be at her control. Just make her feel safe and comfortable, when she opens herself up a bit. This is the stage you both do some introduction and make you familiar to each other.
Well, when you think she is quite open to you, you have turn ON the knob. You sprinkle in some ‘give her a hard time’ acts and if she is comfortable with that also, laughs or gives you a hit on the shoulder, you bring in the sexual tension. Just create the sexual atmosphere, that’s it. She wants to feel sexual with her man and unless you show your sexuality, there will be no charge in the interaction. It’s not the right time to go too strong on her, but yeah, a bit of hints thrown here and there, is great in creating that sexual vibe in the air.
But that’s just to bring in a break in the interaction. They are to make sure the interaction is going in the right direction. You don’t have to be in this stage forever. It just brings up the temperature and then you start to vibe with her.
But before establishing rapport with her, there’s a step that we are missing. In fact, that’s intertwined with the “deep rapport” building stage. You have got to give her reason why you are liking her. So, qualification is very important. You check her out and you like what you find out.
You create some rapport with her. The aim to establish DEEP RAPPORT with her consistently. Ask her questions about herself, her passions and express the real you. Have a nice good time with each other. She will feel a connection with you.
If she is trying to test you or any opposite resistance, you cannot use ball busting, teasing on her now, since you have come past that and showed that you are being REAL with her. So, the only way to tackle this is to show her that you are disqualifying her and just stop approving her. That’s it. She will come to you back again.
With some girls, the “attraction” phase needs to be kept on a higher note always, whereas with some girls, the “rapport” phase needs to be worked on. But it’s my personal experience, the girls who need more attraction than rapport, would not be open to commit to any steady relationship. You follow them, they flee away, and when you flee away, they follow them. In case of the other women, who want to be in a relationship, they are normally attracted to the initial sexual tension but they want to be in control of their decision and thus, take some time to establish deep rapport and enter into a relationship.
You cannot force rapport, just spend time with her and share information with each other. It will form over the time. Just give her some time. She already wants to know more about you. Time to Connect with her! How do you keep the sexual tension there during this phase? GO SEXUAL, through your body language, through some playful flirting moments, through compliments, through how much you INVEST IN HER. Genuine sexual interest in her keeps up the sexual tension and the sexual chemistry as well. If you wait too much, you might fall into the Friend Zone…eeks!
When the connection is high and you are really feeling in love with each other, just take your chance. Tell her how beautiful she is and how her eyes are a killer seducing weapon. Just tell her how good her hair smells or that her skin is so soft. LEAD to the close! 
Fri, Jan 15, 2010
Ah! This is one of the most favorite subjects of mine. I fumbled in this very stage for a long time. I’m not an expert yet but yes, I believe I can give some really useful dating advice on the subject that is, how to create instant sexual chemistry with a woman. 
Over the years that I have been in the field, sarging women and finding out what worked and what didn’t work, I found that two things worked in creating that mysterious sexual chemistry with a woman very successfully. But before I tell them to you, I would ask you to keep an open mind and not question it, because you might be conditioned to think in a particular way by the society or maybe you were a student of some socially challenged creepy pick up artist. Just try to take in and assimilate what they are for, rather than trying to find faults with it.
Okay, the two basic steps that can help you create instant sexual chemistry with a woman are as follows.
Dominant Fun – What I mean by the term is women should be CHALLENGED and women should HAVE FUN while they are being challenged. Are you getting me? And that’s why, teasing works so well in creating that instant chemistry. What is chemistry by the way? Chemistry is when the person has crossed the line and you are comfortable with it. You are basically enjoying it. Suppose, you are talking with a man for a few minutes now and when you something very obvious, he quips, “wow! You are a genius”. He is that person who just entered your personal bubble and you are enjoying it. It just creates a sense of comfortable tension between you two. Occasional teasing and playfulness is good in keeping up the chemistry than continuous teasing.
There are two ways you can have fun. One that shows confidence and sense of humor, and thus interesting; another that shows ‘seeking approval’ attitude and thus, not interesting. We are talking about the first one here. Occasional sprinkling of this confident playfulness is what keeps that ON between you.
Sexual Flirting – Now listen to me very carefully. Men DO flirt but most of them actually flirt in the lines of ‘I’m interested but I’m not so sure if you will like me’.
If you approach a woman and ask her if you can buy her a drink, then you are actually showing sexual interest, aren’t you? But the problem here is that you are not being confident! Now take the example below.
Let’s say a female coworker is getting inside an elevator and you give her the pass. Check the conversation below:
You: Please…
Her: Wow! You are a gentleman (a little tease)
You: Don’t be mistaken mam, I’m just trying to see your cute little butt behind.
Her: Oh! That took a long time to build.
You: That’s why I’m being a gentleman
In this example, you saw how he showed interest but he was also confident. That’s what impresses women. You should be able to FLIRT WITH HER but you should do it from a strong position, not from a submissive downhill stand. Women actually love when they are hit on by a confident ‘high value’ man. If you are really attractive and high value, you might scare them if you approach them VERY DIRECT. But if you establish some comfort and acceptance initially, then she can take your flirting and also enjoy that. That creates the chemistry.
But here’s an important note. It’s always better to just cut the nonsense and convey your interest in the most unassuming way as possible. Like in the elevator situation, that was fun but she might not take it to heart. And you want her to take you seriously, don’t you? So, the best way to flirt is to be absolutely serious and not add any playfulness to it. It makes her think about it later if you do it right, takes it to a more serious level and that’s how you actually get a girlfriend.
Moreover, when you combine that superficial dominant fun with intense sexual flirtation in the undertone, that’s when it creates the right sexual chemistry with a woman.
Fri, Jan 15, 2010
First of all, I’m not talking about making girls fall in love with you. But, I’m talking about how to pique their interest and curiosity to know you better, that is build comfort and rapport. Now, I’ve seen many players in the field and I’ve found that most of these so-called players, who do quite well with women (getting girls in a row every night), have three common characteristic traits going for them. Even I come with these ones. 
And these are as follows.
Fun – You always have a good time with the players. They are not goofing around actually, but you just don’t know how time flies away when you are with them. You just have a good time with them. At times, they are telling some exciting personal story, sometimes they are teasing the hell out of you while there are times when they are just so connecting well with you that you feel good when you are with them. This one is big and I can go on with this one. Let’s just stop here (more on this in some later blog) and move on.
Sexual – Players are just so good at creating that sexual vibe, that sexual atmosphere in the atmosphere. Women may act prude but remember, all of them want a romantic sexual vibe in the air. It makes them feel desirable and turns them on. When someone tells you that you are so sexy, don’t you feel good? Even if in the back of your mind you know that they are not serious or they are just being flirtatious, you feel good nonetheless. He flirts and he makes you feel special. That’s a player.
Now, you will think that I try to be funny, build rapport and show my innocent desire for her, but still don’t care to reciprocate it or even, acknowledge it. Then what do these players have in extra that makes the girl notice and pay special attention to them? Why the girls would reciprocate interest towards them and not towards you?
Open your ears WIDE. Here comes the major one.
Hard To Get – Yes, they have a good time with you and indicate special interest towards you, but you STILL CANNOT just get them. They are so near to you yet they are out of reach. They are just so nonchalant and they wear a peculiar “I don’t care” attitude. They are very DOMINANT. They have their own world and they have a really strong reality. They don’t buy into your frame, instead you get sucked up in their frame and thus you feel that tingling sensation whenever they call you up or meet you. Yes, these players are just hard to get.
If you see any player getting girls in a bar like a honeycomb attracts bears, just remember that this player has GAME.
Mon, Jan 11, 2010
First date conversations are always tricky. Most guys sweat and shake when they have to converse with their dates. Most of the time, they end up saying the wrong things. That’s why I keep my date conversations very normal and casual. First I test the waters and get to know the girl and what sort of conversations she would be interested in and then I jump right into it.
I once had a date, with whom I had discussed world politics and yes, she did go out with me again. That was just the kind of person she was. She was intelligent, had a wide knowledge about things and she dug the fact that I wasn’t ignorant about my surroundings. So you see, it really comes down to the type of person you are dating. There was this other girl I had dates who would flip out and think I was too boring to talk to if I had brought up world politics with her.
The big deal is starting a conversation. Steering conversations is an art; an art I’ve had to strive to master and yet I feel quite incompetent. I always start with the general things though, when out on a first date. I try and find out what we have in common and then may be discuss on a particular topic. I never bring up debatable topics. That’s a disaster and I have been through it. I once had a huge quarrel with a girl regarding something. I don’t really remember what it was about but she had one opinion and I had another and they did not remotely match. Thus we had a huge quarrel and then I never saw her again. It’s a shame; she was really pretty.
There are girls though with whom you’ll feel so comfortable that you’ll never have a shortage of topics to talk about. Sadly enough, I have not come across many girls who are at ease and comfortable in their skin. The girls like these whom I did meet were some of my best dates so far. It is really fun talking to someone who wouldn’t hesitate teasing you if she got the chance. Girls are generally not that straight forward. I really like extrovert and comfortable in their skin girls. They seem to gather more knowledge by talking to others. And the most important thing is they almost always forgive you for foot in your mouth situations. They laugh it off or get past it. That is so amazing. But as I said, these girls are really hard to come by. so I stick to tried and tested first date conversation methods.
Mon, Jan 11, 2010
Believe it or not guys, the first kiss does matter when you’re dating a girl. Although it does not mean that much to us; most guys are thinking about third base when we’ve only managed the first, the girls take the first kiss really seriously. They’ve got this thing about knowing how the relationship will be from that first kiss. So I learned how to make it really special. You’ve got to make her feel like she’s the one you’ve been waiting for till now and after that kiss, your lives will be totally different. Dramatic; I know but true all the same.
What I’ve learned is that it is always safe to make that first kiss gentle yet passionate. I never let the girl feel that I’ve got lusty motives behind trying to kiss her. The first kiss is a very romantic thing for the girls and I try not to ruin it for them. I make sure their evening goes perfect and then I slowly make my move. Of course I try and understand first whether she wants to kiss me too. There are ways of knowing that. I lean in a little while talking to her and if she automatically leans in too, I get the hint. Plus, most times, you just know. There’s this feeling, this vie you if you may, and that tells you that it’s time. The worst thing to do then is to postpone it for later. I’ve done that too and it is not a good decision.
The mood should be set right and what better way to set the mood than have a romantic date first. Taking a girl to a very romantic and secluded place also gives the girl a hint. Mostly, I kiss the girl when I drop her home. It’s a little trick of mine; if I kiss the girl just before she goes home, that’ll be the thing she’ll be think of the rest of the night because it’ll show that I did not want more right then and that I can wait and also she will definitely be wanting more. But to make her want more, I have to make the kiss perfect.
I never overdo the kiss. No tongue on first kisses; always gives out the wrong signal. One hand running through her hair and one on her waist, gentle peck at first and then slow and gentle kiss. That does it. Well, I can’t deny it does feel really good, especially if you are really into the girl. First kisses are always special if you really like the girl. Otherwise it is just another kiss and that’s not something you’d look forward to. At least I don’t.
Mon, Jan 11, 2010
Relationships are not that easy to maintain. Ask me, I’ve been in quite a few. There are different kind of people and likewise different kinds of relationships. Casual ones are sometimes not that casual and not so casual ones turn out to be the exact opposite. It is all very subjective; you being the subject. If you ask me, the key to all relationships is the connection. Yes trust is a very important aspect too but from what I’ve seen, the want of being together keeps two people happy together. The pull is very necessary. If you feel like being mildly addicted to cigarettes; that it doesn’t matter whether you’ve had your puff today or not, it definitely wouldn’t work. You should be able to say that you’re addicted. Wow! I sound like an Enrique Iglesias song! Well, the song was good too; especially the video if you know what I mean.
Anyhow, moving on; I suddenly feel this profound urge to spread my knowledge among the fellow male species. Not that I have a lot of it, but in my opinion I am quite experienced. Let me list all the reasons why I broke up. Seriously, I won’t get into details. Read on, you won’t get bored.
First one was due to insecurity and it gives me great pleasure to let you know that it was not on my part. My girlfriend was terribly insecure and used to call me up a million times a day just to make sure that I wasn’t going behind her back and dating another girl. First of all if I was dating another girl, she wouldn’t get to know no matter how many times she called and second of all, it was terribly irritating. So I broke up. She cried, I kept mum; the she shouted and I still kept mum. Rule number one of my break up codes – never shout back at a hurt girl if you are the one breaking up. There’s no point, you’re going away either way; why bother hurting the girl more. Insecurity comes from love but too much of it is relationship bombing.
Then there was this one break up where I had taken the girl for granted. Yes I accept it now that she’s not here to listen and say “I told you so”. Time together is really important in a relationship. Hanging around with my friends all day and sometimes forgetting to call her all together was something I really should have avoided. Well, I learned my lesson though. Now I never miss calling a girl. It makes them feel missed and that’s a good thing in a relationship.
Then there was infidelity, misunderstandings and the usual mix of just not getting along and not meant to be together. Mostly I understood what not to do in relationships. You know what, when you find that perfect girl, I guess you’ll stop making that many mistakes just like that. As I said, the connection is necessary.
Mon, Jan 11, 2010
Singer Robbie Williams in his song supreme sings “All the best women are married and all the handsome men are gay..you feel deprived..” I think the guy’s kind of right. All the best looking women are early off the market. Leaving out all the committed women would leave us men in a drought. I profoundly profess this theory. And yes I will back it up with results.
I’ll let you guys in on this recent thing that happened to me last weekend. I was taking a stroll down my lane, and at the park bench I saw this gorgeous girl sitting alone with a book in her hand. She seemed a little upset. I couldn’t resist walking up to her, but a plain Hi or a Hello would perhaps not interest her and also would fetch me cold (don’t bug me) look. I noticed much to my joy that the book she was carrying was ‘The Zahir’ by Paulo Coelho. I being an avid reader of his books knew for certain that I had at least one common topic to talk about. I chose to open with the same. I asked “Is that the new one by Coelho?” and smiled. She replied that it was and smiled back. I asked her if she read more of his books and found out that she’s quite a big fan of the writer. I began talking to her about the author, his books, his style of writing etc. and then at the right moment I asked “I really want some coffee.. You want some?? “ . She agreed.
We went to a coffee shop nearby and hit it off pretty good. We were talking and laughing and have good time. Exactly at this point of time, like in every good story there is a twist, a dramatic and tragic one I may add. I suddenly notice a group of guys entering the shop. One of them, one very tall and well built one of them was looking at her. I didn’t give it much importance considering the fact that the girl is really pretty. Then I noticed him looking at us very curiously. The guy walked up to our table and I noticed that he wasn’t very happy to see us. I saw her face change tremendously at the look of him. She introduced us. Yes it was her boyfriend. The guy sat down and went on with his curious questions and kept touching her and holding her hand to show me that it was his girl I was talking to. I smiled at it. He having done his part, left winking at me while he said “take care”. The girl seemed a little embarrassed and upset at this. I asked her why she was upset and she started to whine about her relationship and how the guy wasn’t good to her etc. I took the opportunity and gave her my shoulder to cry on. I didn’t say anything bad about her guy, but supportively mentioned that it wasn’t perhaps the best things to do and I wouldn’t have done it. I got her some ice cream and made her smile. By the end of the evening she started talking about her life and interests and was happy. Before leaving she gave me her number and when I called her the next day she asked me out.
Yes it works. You can approach and date committed women. After a few days the dream of a perfect relationship breaks, they are filled with cracks. All you have to do is highlight those cracks and make it understood that if it were you, nothing like that would have ever happened. So don’t feel deprived.
Mon, Jan 11, 2010
Being funny ain’t easy. Ask me about it. Have you ever felt like you are really on a roll and then you see no one’s laughing. Well, that is the most embarrassing thing that can happen to you humor wise. It is even more humiliating when the person not laughing is the date that you’re trying to impress. I thought girls love funny men. Well they do, but what I did not know was that different girls dig different kinds of humor. I’ve had some seriously shitty luck with girls in this area.
Once I cracked a joke about a passing girl who had a weird nose and my date got offended and said I was insensitive. I should not be making jokes about other people’s looks. Well, I was stumped. What could I do? I looked down and then managed enough courage to steer the conversation out of troubled waters. But seriously guys, this used to happen a lot to me. I’m thankful I know the art of steering conversations; otherwise all my dates would be a nightmare. Bad humour can cost you dates; trust me.
There was this time when I made fun of a girl’s dress and she was grumpy the whole night. I didn’t see what the big deal was but then a female friend of mine said that rule number one of humor with girls is that you should never make fun of her, or her dress or her shoes or her make up; well you get the drift. I tried not putting my foot in my mouth from then on.
Still folks, I have had some good times too. I cracked a joke and the girl giggled away. I know this much that of a girl giggles and hits you playfully after you say a joke, she’s bought it. Most girls do like funny guys but the guys take it too far with their humor. Well, I’ve learned my lesson; tough ones too. Embarrassment is something I don’t take well. If there’s nowhere I can hide, I try not to be experimental with my humor. More importantly, I try and find out what kind of humour the girl likes and strictly adhere to that category. No point in being sarcastic with a slapstick kinda girl, is there? Likewise, an intelligent girl would think you’re very lame if you went for the slapstick jokes.
The easiest way out is to keep the humor subtle. No long jokes and no dark humor – my motto from now on.
Mon, Jan 11, 2010
From Ron, India:
It happened a few days back.
I live in a rented house. And the property owner visited the city for a few days. He was there to check the condition of the house and just dispose of some basic duties and responsibilities he had in here. Well, that was surely not my headache.
But yeah, the best thing was that he had a GORGEOUS DAUGHTER. She also came with him to stay in my city for some time and get a feel of it. Well, I don’t really get nervous when confronted with such beauty, but yeah, I was so excited the first day that I almost forgot to take my breakfast on time.
So, I decided to approach her (of course, I had to). How? She had her family and the best way to open her was by opening her family. And that’s what I did! She had a scrawny brother, I despised from the very first day. But still I had to go and make friends with him. Then I got to know her mother and father slowly.
After that, one day, I invited her brother in my house. When he came, I took the chance and asked him to call her sister as well. That was the first day of our meeting. We instantly hit off well and it seemed she was kind of attracted to me. I believe in Chinese astrology and found out that she is a horse and I’m a tiger. So, it’s very natural that we will click together and has a blasting chemistry, and that we did.
After that, days passed by. We went out together, sometimes for shopping, sometimes to the local museum and sometimes just around the locality. I could see how the local guys were eyeing me up and envying me those times. Yeah and I had a great time!
Well, she was there only for seven days and then she went away to her place. I got her number and now we are regularly chatting with each other. Though, I don’t trust people that easily but I got a feeling that we have a long way to go. So, wish me luck, guys!
Thu, Jan 27, 2011
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